35 Non-Traditional Wedding Vows And Writing Tips For Him & Her
Wedding vows define a lifelong commitment between two people. They are a pledge of trust, love, and adoration that solidify the union of marriage. But most times many wedding vows come off as cliché and monotonous. However, with some inspiration and creativity, you can spice up your wedding day by writing non-traditional wedding vows that’ll give a personal touch to your big day.
It’s easier said than done though. Writing unique wedding vows can be a tough process for the bride or the groom, especially when added to the wedding anxiety you’re already feeling.
So how do you pour out your heart in words through your vows?
We’ve made it easy for you to craft a beautiful and heartfelt unique wedding pledge with 9 simple tips for writing non-traditional wedding vows as below. Take note of the tips on the timespan as well as what to include in the vows.
Once you have a grasp of how to write wedding vows, read on for 35 non-traditional wedding vows for him and her. Either long, short, funny or romantic, choose the ones that suit you and put your personal touch to the pledge afterwards.
9 Tips for Writing Wedding Vows
1. Prepare Early
If you’re going to craft a non-traditional wedding vow that’ll hit the right spot with your partner, you need to start creating it on time. You’ll need enough time to get all the inspiration necessary to help you write something beautiful.
Try to avoid procrastination and instead fix your mind on all the amazing reasons that made you chose to walk down the aisle with your lover.
2. Use Your Love Story For Your Non-Traditional Vows
You need to look within and ask yourself questions about why you’re in love. Think deeply on questions like:
- How did I meet him/her?
- What made me fall in love?
- What’s my fondest memory in our relationship?
- Why do I love my other half?
After brooding on these questions, you can pen down the answers and use them to begin creating your non-traditional wedding vows.
3. Be Open to Inspiration
When it comes to love the littlest of things can trigger a flood of emotions. Listening to a song that you and your partner both love, scanning through wedding cards, visiting wedding blogs, reading poetry or vows. Then you can access deep inspiration that’ll help you craft lovely non-traditional wedding vows your lover would adore.
There’s inspiration everywhere around you, it just takes being open to access it. You could even get ideas from a wedding movie or book your spouse loves.
4. Pour out Your Feelings and Emotions in Writing Non-traditional Wedding Vows
One thing with traditional wedding vows, unlike non-traditional ones, is that they usually lack the necessary emotions to give that personal touch.
So if you’re going for unique vows you’ll need to pour out your heart in words. To achieve this, you can think about your favorite memories with your other half when writing, as this will assist you to pen down words fueled by emotions.
Memories about your partner that leave you with a smile or that cause you to giggle when you’re alone are examples of the kind of thoughts that’ll open the gates to your heart.
5. Make Your Non-Traditional Wedding Vows Concise
The human mind tends to wander quite quickly, so try to keep the vow short and sweet. You can use a thesaurus to find alternative words for long phrases or repetitive words. For example, if you had a line like “I love your loyalty, your faithfulness and how trustworthy you are...,” you could simply say, “I love your dedication to our relationship.”
The point is to hit your spouse right in the heart in a short space of time, so avoid certain phrases that may come off as boring and stiff. A great rule of thumb is to keep your non-tradition wedding vows between 2 to 3 minutes of reading time.
6. Consult with Close Friends
Sometimes a line may appear beautiful to you but could be cheesy to the hearing of others. That’s why it’ll be extremely helpful to run your non-traditional wedding vows draft through with close friends. They will be able to point out aspects that don’t sound right or aren’t crafted properly.
Also watch their initial reactions closely, as facial expressions may give off more than they say.
7. Consult with your Partner
You need to know what kind of wedding vows to write. Should it be humorous or serious? Discussing this with your partner will help you know if you’re on the right track with whatever type of vows you both agreed on.
Take out time to practice reading your non-traditional wedding vows. However, on the big day speak from your heart. Let your partner feel the emotions behind each word and the depth they emanated from.
Don’t try to stick to the exact tone and mood you were in when practicing. Instead, let go. It’s your day, so don’t be afraid to choke up or giggle a little. Relax and deliver your heart.
9. Save the Non-Traditional Wedding Vows
After creating a beautiful non-traditional wedding vow, you don’t have to discard it, you can use it for your invitation cards or thank you cards. Besides, consider turning it into a decorative canvas wall art, which can be a great anniversary gift idea for your anniversaries down the road.
Learn more about how to write wedding vows and examples.
15 Non-Traditional Wedding Vows for Her
It is also overwhelming and challenging for the bride when it comes to writing a sacred vow to the husband-to-be. Here are 15 non-traditional wedding vows for the bride that ignite creativity and sentiment.
Long Vows for Her
I (name) affirm my love to you, (name) as I invite you to share my life. You are the most beautiful, smart, and generous person I have ever known, and I promise always to respect you and love you. With kindness, unselfishness, and trust, I will work by your side to create a wonderful life together. I take you (name) to be my lawful husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health for as long as we both shall live.
I always thought it would be difficult
to find someone who will love me
when I’m always scattered
in a thousand pieces
it’s like trying to complete a puzzle
when you don’t even know if you have
all the right pieces
but then you showed me
that every piece
doesn’t have to be in place
to create something beautiful
that love can exist
in the most
and broken people
and i promise you
that love will be just
if you’re in a thousand pieces
or just one.
If you and your spouse are hard-fans of this TV comedy series, this speech is among the perfect wedding vows for her!
“For so long I wondered if I would ever find my prince, my soul mate. Then three years ago at another wedding, I turned to a friend for comfort. And instead, I found everything that I’d ever been looking for my whole life. And now here we are, with our future before us, and I only want to spend it with you, my prince, my soul mate, my friend. Unless you don’t want to. You go!”
Source: Friends TV series – Monica and Chandler Wedding
I promise to give you the best of myself, and to ask of you no more than you can give. I promise to respect you as your own person, and to realise that your interests, desires and needs are no less important than my own. I promise to share with you my time and attention, and to bring joy, strength and imagination to our relationship. I promise to keep myself open to you. I promise to grow along with you – to be willing to face changes as we both change in order to keep our relationship alive and exciting. I promise to love you in good times and in bad, with all I have to give and all I feel inside in the only way I know how completely and forever.
(Name), I take you to be my lifetime partner, secure in the knowledge that you will be my constant friend, and my one true love.
Source: Wedding Vow Share
I, (name), take you, (name), to be my partner, loving what I know of you, and trusting what I do not yet know. I eagerly anticipate the chance to grow together, getting to know the man you will become, and falling in love a little more every day. I promise to love and cherish you through whatever life may bring us.
Short Wedding Vows for Her
I will take you in my arms when you need to be held. I will listen when you need to talk. I will laugh with you in times of joy, and comfort you in times of sadness. I will love you for who you are, and help you to become all that you can be. I will age gracefully with you/grow old with you.
[name], I take you to be my husband from this point forward, to join with you and to share all that is to come, to be your faithful wife, to give and to receive, to speak and to listen, to inspire and to respond. This will be a commitment made in love, kept in faith, and eternally made new.
When you fall, I will catch you; when you cry, I will comfort you; when you laugh, I will share your joy. Everything I am, and everything I have is yours, from this moment forth, and for eternity.
I promise to be there when you need me, to fill your days with sunshine, to comfort you and encourage you, to help you reach your goals, to be your best friend ever, and to love you all my life, with all my heart.
I promise to seek God with you, bravely and constantly, holding you closer than any other human to the heart of my heart, with only God in the very center.
Funny Wedding Vows for Her
You are beautiful, kind, gentle, loving, caring—and did I mention that you’re funny? So funny that sometimes only YOU laugh at your jokes. When I really think about it, spending forever with you just doesn’t seem like it’s going to be long enough.
I want to make you smile whenever you’re sad, carry you around when your arthritis is bad, all I want to do is grow old with you. I’ll get your medicine when your tummy aches, build you a fire if the furnace breaks, oh it could be so nice, growing old with you. I’ll miss you, kiss you, give you my coat when you are cold. Need you, feed you, even let you hold the remote control. So let me do the dishes in our kitchen sink, put you to bed when you’ve had too much to drink. Oh I could be the woman who grows old with you, I want to grow old with you.
Source: Adam Sandler – Grow Old With You
I promise to love and cherish you as much as I do our dog. From this day forward, I will lint roll the chairs whenever your parents visit. I will love you in sickness and in health, as long as you take care of the vet visits. I promise to cuddle with you as much as I do [dog’s name], and pick up treats for you whenever he gets some, too.
Source: Minted Weddings
I vow to be there. I will be there for you through the exceptional times and the miserable times.
I will be there with you through the silly times and the stinky times, which, on occasion, are the same time.
I vow to love you. I will keep on loving you for the million little things you do that make you unique and make me smile. I will even love you for the little things you do that make me frown, because they are also part of who you are.
I vow to support you. I will support you in every endeavor emotionally, spiritually, and financially. I would include physically, but I’ve tried that, and you’re just too heavy.
I vow to be honest. I will be honest with my actions and my words. I will stay true to you, always trustworthy and faithful. I will be straightforward and tell you when I am in need of your presence, your love, your support, and your honesty.
Most of all, I vow to say yes every time you ask me to marry you.
Source: Offbeat Bride
I want your worst—give me your bad hair days, your long commutes, your burnt coffee, lost keys, splashed shoes, annoying coworkers, lost receipts, broken copiers. Give me your everyday and I will give you my love to make it alright.
Source: Minted Weddings
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20 Non-Traditional Wedding Vows for Him
From sentimental to amusing yet heartfelt, these wedding vows to the bride are easy to follow and remember. Some of them are rhythmic poems and like flowing from your sincere heart. And you can add some personal touch to make the vow to the woman of your life truly yours.
Romantic Wedding Vows for Him
In your eyes, I have found my home.
In your heart, I have found my love.
In your soul, I have found my mate.
With you, I am whole, full, alive.
You make me laugh. You let me cry.
You are my breath, my every heartbeat.
I am yours.
You are mine.
Of this we are certain.
You are lodged in my heart.
The small key is lost.
You must stay there forever.
Frau Ava (circa 1160), translated by Willis Barnstone
I am proud to take you as my husband/wife.
For all the time we have been together, there has always been the kind of mutual understanding which is only shared when there is true love.
You have helped me triumph over challenges presented,
Encouraged my personal growth and boosted my self-esteem.
You have helped me become the person I am today,
And with your help, I will be a better person tomorrow than I was yesterday.
I vow to trust and value your opinions and stand by your actions.
I pledge to always treat you as my best friend and equal.
I will ask for help when I need it and offer help to you always.
Let us be friends and lovers, and grow old disgracefully together.
Source: Offbeat Bride
I choose you to be my husband/my wife, my partner in life.
I promise you my unconditional love, my fullest devotion, my most tender care.
Through the pressures of the present and the uncertainties of the future,
I promise to love you, honor, respect
and cherish you all the days of our lives.
You are everything I need
And at this moment I feel that all of my prayers have been answered.
I know that our love is heaven sent
and I promise to be here forever and always.
I pledge to respect your unique talents and abilities,
to lend you strength to reach your dreams.
I promise to take care of you, to encourage and inspire you,
asking that you be no other than yourself.
From this day forward you shall not walk alone.
My heart will be your shelter and my arms will be your home.
Source: Offbeat Bride
I promise to encourage your compassion,
Because that is what makes you unique and wonderful.
I promise to nurture your dreams,
Because through them your soul shines.
I promise to help shoulder our challenges,
For there is nothing we cannot face if we stand together.
I promise to be your partner in all things,
Not possessing you, but working with you as a part of the whole.
Lastly, I promise to you perfect love and perfect trust,
For one lifetime with you could never be enough.
This is my sacred vow to you, my equal in all things.
Today, I promise you this: I will laugh with you in times of joy and comfort you in times of sorrow. I will share in your dreams and support you as you strive to achieve your goals. I will listen to you with compassion and understanding, and speak to you with encouragement. Together, let us build a home filled with learning, laughter, and light, shared freely with all who may live there. Let us be partners, friends, and lovers, today and all of the days that follow.
Short and Sweet Wedding Vows for Him
Apart from the romantic modern wedding vows above, there are manifold wedding vows for him that are short but sweet.
You know me better than anyone else in this world and somehow still you manage to love me. You are my best friend and one true love. There is still a part of me today that cannot believe that I’m the one who gets to marry you.
Because of you, I laugh, I smile, and I dare to dream more than I ever have. Thank you for the miracle of you. You are, and always will be, the love of my life, my soulmate, my person.
I see these vows not as promises but as privileges: I get to laugh with you and cry with you, care for you and share with you. I get to run with you and walk with you, build with you, and live with you.
I promise to always be your friend, your lover, and, most importantly, your family, from this day until our very last days.
Let us build a home of laughter, love, support, and charity. Let us create a warm and welcoming space for the good times and the bad. Let us be a home for each other, forever and ever.
Funny Wedding Vows for Him
I promise to always leave the lights on in the bathroom
I promise to mysteriously take three hours to make a simple omelet
I promise to create a life for us of unexpected and strange adventures
I promise that I will love you
I pledge to listen to your advice, and occasionally take it
I pledge to never take score… even if I’m totally winning
I pledge to always admire your huge, strong, kind and determined heart
I pledge that I will love you
I vow to listen, for as long as it takes for you to feel heard
I vow to watch in awe as you kick ass and take names
I vow to be your unrelenting cheer squad on the days it feels too much
I vow that I will love you
I believe that ‘me time’ is an actual concept, that can be proven by science
I believe that carefully folded socks make you happy
I believe there is no time or place I’m more content than when you’re close
Because of this and so, so much more… I believe that I will always love you
Source: Offbeat Bride
I promise to grow with you and support you,
I promise to be patient, understanding, and kind,
I promise to listen and share,
I promise to create, to explore, and be curious,
In good times and in bad, I promise to love you,
I will make sure there is always coffee,
I promise to be my best for myself, for us, and for our future together.
Source: Martha Stewart Weddings
Here’s one of the wedding vows for him to the bride who is easily touched by short reunion clips:
I promise to be there with you through the toughest of the trials in our life and to cry with you. These trials do not include things like YouTube footage of soldiers being reunited with their daughters. You’re crying on your own with those.
Source: Easy Weddings
I love you, because you are helping me to make of the lumber of my life, not a tavern, but a temple. Out of the works of my every day, not a reproach, but a song. I love you, because you have done more than any creed could have done to make me good, and more than any fate could have done to make me happy. You have done it without a touch, without a word, without a sign. You have done it by being yourself.
I promise to do the stuff neither of us wants to do, if you really don’t want to do it more than I don’t.
Source: Martha Stewart Weddings
My sweetie, my bride, wonderful things happen to those who keep trying. Since the first time I met you, I wanted to make you happy, even when you draw those pictures of me that show me with less hair than I like to think I have. Now your happiness is my guide, and I will love you for every second of the rest of my life.
Source: Martha Stewart Weddings
You are the one I want to binge-watch Netflix with forever/ I promise not to watch the next episode without you.
In sickness and in health: I promise to take care of you, even when you’re hungover. For richer or for poorer: I promise not to spend all our money online shopping.
I vow to be a quality roommate. I will wash more dishes. I vow to tolerate your icy toes. I will continue to play with you until we grow old and decrepit.
I want us to grow old and crusty together, to shake our collective fists at teenagers, and to talk endlessly about the old days when things were better, cheaper, and generally more wholesome.
I vow to open jars for you and pretend that you loosened it, even though we both know it was my manly muscles that opened that thing.
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There you go. Follow our tips to write an amazing wedding vow that awes the guests and above all, touches your significant other’s heart forever.
Above are just a few examples of the best non-traditional wedding vows for him and her on the big day. You can effortlessly customize them with the best memories and moments in your relationship. And the result is the wedding vows that speak from the heart and reflect the journey with your partner. You should also save the vows for other elements of your wedding planning or to reminisce on your anniversary.